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- Attending to Your Marriage' Needs
- Do You Have A High Priority Marriage
- Guidlines When Looking for the Love of Your Life
- Commitment - The Glue That Holds Marriages Together
- Life Circumstances Can Make Us Bitter or Better
- Don't Argue to Win, Press Toward Resolution
- If You're not Getting Enough From Your Marriage, Then You're Probably not Giving Enough to Your Marriage
- Three Powerful Words; "I am Sorry"
- Should we or Shouldn't we Live Together
- Avoid Arguments Related to Your Religious Differences: Ten Strategies
- Praying Together Helps Couples Stay Together
- The Three Rs: Recognition, Remorse and Repair
- Getting Past Couple Gridlock
- Challenges Related to Remarriage and Stepfamily Life
- Strategies to Help Intermarried Couples Celebrate The Holidays
- Recovering From Infidelity: Part I
- Revovering From Infidelity: Part II
Attending to Your Marriage’s Needs
When I meet with conflicted couples, I try and advocate for the marriage. To put it another way, I try and help couples recover the love, intimacy and trust they’ve lost over the years.
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Do You Have A High Priority Marriage
I’m certain you’re aware that a high percentage of marriages in our society are failing.
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Guidelines When Looking for the Love of Your Life
As a married priest, couple’s therapist and researcher, I have had theprivilege to counsel hundreds of couples.
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Commitment - The Glue That Holds Marriages Together
Do you know what a starter home is? For those who don’t, a starter home is a home that some young couples might buy when they first get married. And as their needs change, and their bank account and family grows, they will move into a larger home. In effect, a starter home is a place for them to start life.
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Life Circumstances Can Make Us Bitter or Better
The other day, I had occasion to meet informally with a couple who’d been married for 51 years. By their own admission, “things hadn’t always gone the way they hoped.”
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Don't Argue to Win, Press Toward Resolution
When you find yourselves caught in a serious disagreement, don’t argue to win. Instead, press to resolution together.
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If You're not Getting Enough From Your Marriage, Then You're Probably not Giving Enough to Your Marriage
We’re a nation of people who seem to be fixated on our personal needs, often to the exclusion of the needs of others around us.
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Three Powerful Words; "I am Sorry"
I recently worked with a couple who initially made some marked progress in therapy and then just as quickly slipped back into some old destructive patterns.
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Should we or Shouldn't we Live Together
In the sixties, my generation called it “shacking up.” Today it’s called “living together,” and academics call it “cohabitation.”
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Avoid Arguments Related to Your Religious Differences: Ten Strategies
What often begins as a harmless exchange between spouses over their ethnic and religious differences can quickly escalate into a serious argument that is characterized by lots of destructive criticism, contempt, and perhaps even defensiveness.
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Praying Together Helps Couples Stay Together
When I conduct premarital preparation workshops and marital enhancement workshops, at some point during the day, I may ask participants some questions to determine how many couples pray together. Here’s the approach I use.
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The Three Rs: Recognition, Remorse and Repair
The other day I was working with a couple who were especially angry at each other. Try as I did to get them to focus on something other than their anger, nothing I did and said seemed to resonate.
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Getting Past Couple Gridlock
Father Charles,
I was raised Greek Orthodox and I married a man who was raised Catholic. After one year of marriage, we have been struggling with the following major question: In which religion will we raise our future children? I know that a successful marriage is built on sacrifice and consideration for your partner, but what do you do when one person has to give? This issue is not something I am willing to compromise? Please help. As time passes I feel more confused.
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Challenges Related to Remarriage and Stepfamily Life
Dear Fr. Charles,
I have concerns related to our faithful who remarry. This is especially true when the children are teens….It seems to me the problems that these remarried couples have are numerous….In an attempt to be more helpful to these couples, can you help me better understand what special problems remarried couples face?
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Strategies to Help Intermarried Couples Celebrate The Holidays
Research indicates that the holiday season brings added challenges and stress into our lives. Intermarried couples and their families, because of their different religious and cultural backgrounds, are especially at risk when the holidays come. The purpose of this article is twofold:
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Recovering From Infidelity: Part I
Dear Father Charles,
I recently found out that my husband has been cheating on me for a few months now. When I confronted him, he denied everything and got really angry. After we argued, he promised not to have any further contact with her. Since he made that promise, he continues to talk with her. I think I have also found more evidence of some cheating.... I have mixed feelings about my marriage, and I don't know what to do. We have three young children. I would like to try to save the marriage for their sake. I am too embarrassed to consult my priest. I wonder if God is punishing me. I hope you can provide some direction.
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Recovering From Infidelity: Part II
Infidelity is a serious breach of trust. Despite the serious nature of this breach, many couples can and do recover from infidelity. It is not an easy recovery process.
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