Lying and Peer Pressure
Lying and Peer Pressure
Adapted from a session by the Boston Diocese Camp
JOY or GOYA Session – To focus on the issue of lying, understanding why it happens, and how to overcome it.
Christ, the true light, who enlightens and sanctifies every person coming into the world, let the light of Your countenance shine upon us that we may see Your unapproachable light; and guide our steps in the way of Your commandments, through the intercessions of Your all-holy Mother and all of the Saints. Amen. (Prayer Before Study – My Orthodox Prayer Book)
WHO IS LYING?
- Gather all participants into a circle.
- Each participant will be given a small piece of paper that will either say, “TRUTH” or “LIE.” The participant can look at the paper but cannot let anyone see what they have been given.
- Each participant will then say their name, age, and offer an interesting fact about themselves (which could be the TRUTH or a LIE).
- The group will then try to guess if the interesting fact was a truth or lie.
- The session leader should take a moment to either ask a question about the true interesting fact or ask the others to share something true if they had told a lie.
There are two skit options:
IMPROMPTU SKITS (Better for older participants)
- Split the group into three smaller groups.
- Explain that the groups will be creating skits about not telling the truth (lying). One group will address what it means to lie, another group will address why we lie, and the last group will address how to stop lying.
WHAT WOULD HAPPEN?
- Create 5-7 different scenarios where an individual has to choose between telling the truth or telling a lie.
- Read each one of the scenarios and have the participants discuss the following: 1) What might happen if he/she told the truth? 2) What might happen if he/she told a lie?
- These can also be used for skits. Each group can create a skit centered on the specific scenario. Following each skit, the groups can discuss how the story might have differed IF the person lied or told the truth.
Why do people sometimes lie, in any situation? (Peer pressure, fear, seeking acceptance, wanting attention, want to avoid responsibility or punishment)
Is it possible to lie to yourself? Why or why not?
Are some lies worse than others?
What is a “white” lie? Can it be harmful?
What are some of the consequences of lying?
Does it ever really stop at just one little lie?
What do we do when people like to us, especially close friends and family?
How should we confront them?
What can help stop people from lying?
What should we do if we have a problem with lying?
Read Colossians 3:12-17 and discuss the following questions:
- What does this passage talk about?
- How do we apply this to the issue of lying?
- Instead of lying, how should we treat other people?
- Instead of lying, what should our words do or accomplish?
Even if the consequences are difficult, choose to be honest. Talk to your friends and family about lying. Make it known to your family and friends that you value honesty and openness. But you have to commit to this as well. If you expect your friends and family to be honest, you will have to also practice what you preach. When you show that you are an honest person, people will see that virtue and be inspired to do the same!
We thank You, Lord our God, that again on this occasion You have opened our eyes to the light of Your wisdom, You have gladdened our hearts with the knowledge of truth. We entreat You, Lord, help us always to do Your will. Bless our souls and bodies, our words and deeds. Enable us to grow in grace, virtue and good habits, that Your name may be glorified, Father, Son and Holy Spirit, now and forever. Amen. (Prayer After Study – My Orthodox Prayer Book)